As for the cigarette lighter
Where the wires for your head unit are, lower down the loom there should be two wires ( i believe one is is green possibly with a white stripe) and there will also be the lighter illumitor bulb next to them,
If that helps
If by tomirrow u havnt got it sorted ill pull mine apart, break it some more and send u a photo lol
As for the fog lights, do tou want them to run off you existing fog lights, existing parkers, or have them wired up seperatly on theyre own?
I had same problem as you with my cigarette lighter last time as well until i started plug stuff in random place and got it to work properly, here a photo i took in case someone needed it.